Don’t Ask. Do.
Building great relationships requires active participation on your part. That means showing the people who mean something to you that you genuinely care about them- not simply by telling them but by showing them.
We’ve all heard the saying “actions speak louder than words,” and boy is it true. It’s easy for us to tell someone that we are there for them, that we support them and want nothing but the best for them. Words are easy. It’s something entirely different to actually get off our rumps and take some sort of action to really make those words mean something.
I read an article recently that hit the nail on the head. When someone important to you is facing something – a difficult task, a challenging situation, or an opportunity of some kind, rather than ask them how you can help, dive in and just help. Don’t wait for them to tell you what they need because by that time its likely too late to really help. Dive in! Take some action to show them you are front and center and ready to help any way that you can.
If your friend is interviewing for a new job tomorrow, show up at their door with a cup of coffee and a bagel first thing tomorrow morning and offer to drive them. (Limo service never sucks!)
If your best friend’s son’s soccer team made the playoffs show up to root for them. (Don’t forget your camera too! They’ll appreciate your pictures, trust me!)
If your co-worker is struggling with a project don’t ask if there is anything you can do. Saddle up next to them and help with the heavy lifting. (No squats, dumbbells or chest presses required so relax!)
If your boss is stressed over where things stand this quarter, show up with some well thought-out ideas on paper about what you think can be done to turn things around. (Bagel and coffee with ideas might not be a bad touch either!)
You get the idea? (Right? That wasn’t a rhetorical question ya know?!?)
Actions speak louder than words. They also leave indelible marks which will forever Ripple in the hearts and minds of the people you most want them to.
And really, isn’t that what it’s all about anyway?
- Who can you help right now?
- What action can you take that would make some positive impact on them?
- If not now, when?